Dr. Tan Tek Seng

DAILY REFLECTION

20 Jan 2026

“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
Ephesians‬ ‭5‬:‭33‬ ‭

In God’s design for marriage, a husband is called to provide a canopy of security—emotionally, financially, and spiritually. When he fails in this calling through poor stewardship, emotional absence, or a lack of godly leadership, that covering is weakened. In such moments, a wife is often compelled to step beyond her intended role to fill the gaps, carrying burdens she was never meant to bear alone.

This breach of trust is felt most painfully in unfaithfulness. Infidelity strikes at the heart of the one-flesh union, shattering a wife’s sense of being exclusively chosen and cherished. It erodes trust and honor, leaving deep disillusionment. In these circumstances, respect cannot be demanded or assumed. It must be restored through sincere repentance, consistent transparency, and the slow, faithful rebuilding of a life that is once again worthy of trust.

Yet Scripture also reveals that a wife’s respect is more than a response to her husband’s performance; it is a covenantal posture rooted in spiritual truth. As the Church honors Christ as her Head, a wife’s respect reflects her obedience to God’s created order. This truth, however, never excuses neglect or sin. Rather, it underscores that respect flourishes most naturally where love is expressed through sacrificial leadership, protection, and steadfast faithfulness.

When a wife walks in the spirit of Ephesians 5:33, she is not merely honoring a man but affirming his identity in Christ and mirroring the Church’s reverence for her Lord. When a husband responds with Christlike love, security is rebuilt stone by stone. In this rhythm of mutual obedience, love and respect are restored, preserving the beauty and sacred strength of the marital covenant—even after seasons of deep brokenness.

Ephesians 5:33 points beyond marriage to Christ and the Church, calling every home to become a living witness of the Gospel.

"Most good relationships are built on mutual trust and respect."